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Knowing Yourself First: The Hidden Starting Point for Family Conflict and Estrangement
Sometimes it's easier to put someone on a pedestal than to face the truth about them.
This is the work of a defence mechanism known as "splitting," and it's precisely what the name suggests: the mind splits a person into manageable pieces, keeping the difficult parts safely out of view. It's not uncommon for clients to arrive describing a wonderful, devoted parent who could do no wrong, only for a fuller picture to slowly emerge of someone who was also neglectful, demanding,

Kate Nicholls
4 hours ago5 min read
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